I think it’s quite humorous when someone finally shares how they feel about a situation or a person. A couple days ago someone who has a fairly significant presence in my daily life finally let out how they really feel about me. Apparently among other things they feel that I derive great amounts of pleasure out of others misery, that I can’t stand the fact that people might actually really be happy so I do everything I can to bring them down and that I have a “ghetto mentality.”

Frankly, the individual is wrong, however since they feel all the words that come out of my mouth are only negative I’ve taken the steps necessary for them to not hear those words. Short of blocking their access to this blog they will no longer have to experience my quote/un-quote negativity.

Now there are those of you that would agree with that person.
If you do, then you can feel free to nullify your presence in my life too.
The fact of that matter is, I subscribe to the theory of reality and a good majority of folks I encounter don’t. Furthermore, I don’t hold a whole lot of anything back and that bothers folks. Here’s the thing, if you don’t really want to know my opinion DON’T ASK. If you have an issue with me, then please make it known, don’t be like this particular individual and bag it all up until you explode — that isn’t healthy. These tips are not exclusive of the relationship you have with me, but of any relationship you have.

One of the biggest issues in relationships these days is that when folks are in your face they say and act one way and when they’re not they do another thing. That’s not an acceptable way to foster a healthy relationship with anyone. You have got to maintain honesty with yourself and the other party at all times, otherwise what is your relationship built upon? A lie, that’s what!

It all boils down to authenticity and it’s no secret how I feel about most folks ability to remain authentic. Grant it, I’m probably a lot tougher on the subject than I should be but, that is because I feel like we have several giant steps to take prior to us realizing a completely authentic way of living — but, that’s just my opinion.

In the end, the person and I shall remain friends, and in most instances that’s how it always works. However, I have had to make some adjustments for this person. I’m not going to change who I am, because I am who I am and my life is what it is but, I can alter this persons presence in my life so it’s not so significant.

I would encourage you to look at your relationships too. Are their some that you need to alter slightly so that you can continue or heck, maybe even start to foster a healthy relationship? If so, then DO IT!